Life changes and so do our circumstances. We can become better or worse versions of ourselves or things may remain as they are, no matter how hard we try.
Sometimes, people focus too much on physical appearances rather than their emotional needs. In a string of such questions I found online, there were people who got slimmer or more attractive and instantly felt like they needed to get away from their ‘average looking’ partners. Does this make sense for any rational thinking person to do so? The problem is- we are too dependent on what society perceives as good for us. A beautiful girl with an average man… nah! Not happening.
“you could get someone so much better, darling”
They would tell you things like this all the time. You may be insecure too. You may feel that your partner’s average looks are dragging you down or hampering your reputation or what not. In most cases, both these things are at work to make you leave perfectly good people in favor of the more physically attractive. A good body could be a healthy body but it may not be a beautiful mind. The definition of beautiful is totally subjective but when it comes to life partners, you choose someone who makes you happy, not someone who makes you look better in the eyes of the society.
Here is my answer to the question-
Sorry to say but your questions makes me feel sad.
You got fit. Good.
You got promoted. Good.
Men like you, with better homes and better cars. Good.
Go tell your husband all this. Tell him that he is unfit, doesn’t have a good career and doesn’t drive a big car or own a big home. Tell him all this and let him know you want to move on.
If you can’t say it to his face, you are either drowning in your newfound attention or have always hated your husband. Either way, I would consider this an unhealthy behavior. Unless your husband is a man who has been letting you down all this while, you should not move on like he never existed.
Whatever the case, just go and tell him the truth. I hope he is a good man, gets fit, gets a promotion, gets a bigger car and a bigger home and maybe… just maybe… a better woman.