So it was only a few hours ago that I was talking about being a dependent personality and suffering from self-victimization behavior. I was reading the post just now and realized how so many women around me are partly indulging in this behavior and becoming something they are not. I won’t suggest that I have never done this. I have for sure. I have also become clingy, possessive and jealous for a short moment in time before I shrugged it all off and asked everyone to f*** off so I can focus on my goals.
Is it inherent in us, as women, to feel like a victim? Has it been ingrained in women to feel like they can easily fall prey to anything and everything? Yes, we are delicate flowers. Yes, we like to ensure that we stay happy and also try our best to keep everyone around us happy. Yes, we want the good things in life. But does that delicate sweetness of a woman necessarily needs to be accompanied by a sense of victimization. It is partly because women are often considered victims of their family, their friends, their boyfriends, husbands, kids, in-laws… everyone. It is partly because only a small number of women get to make a choice. Only a very small number.
Making choices can be so difficult. On many occasions, a woman’s choice will certainly piss someone off. That someone will be very close to her. The poor woman will certainly give a thought to the dissent and suddenly, she has transformed into a victim. A man, on so many occasions, gets to make a choice for his life and not be accountable or answerable for it. Not saying that things don’t happen otherwise but look at the structure of any middle class Indian family and you will see how true these words are.
We can make a choice. Who asked us to keep everyone happy all the time? Who asked us to look after everyone? Who asked us to pay heed to every opinion we come across and then silently cry on our beds with our teddy bears meekly trying to hug us back while we are clinching our fists, trying to cope with us a situation. I hope we all can make a choice and stop being a victim. Feminism of the west has given us nothing I say. They have killed the dignity of a woman and turned her into an object. Nobody respects a woman with brains unless her brains are used to seduce a rich man to marry her. Women with brains are not welcome. Women with big butts are surely welcome everywhere. Work out to get that booty in shape while I go and work on…. well, I will work on work.